The Femdom Tithe
A Modern Twist on an Ancient Practice
Findom, or financial domination, is a contentious and often misunderstood aspect of the kink community. Many assume that submissives who engage in findom are willing to unravel their lives and financial well-being for the sake of play. While some dynamics do involve extreme scenarios where submissives experience lasting negative impacts, this is not the only way to engage in findom. At its core, findom is about acknowledging the power money holds and using that knowledge to enhance a consensual, psycho-sexual power dynamic.
Many of my clients express a desire to avoid findom, not realizing that any exchange of money inherently involves a power exchange. This exchange exists on a spectrum and can manifest in various ways depending on the desires and limits of both the domme and the sub. In my practice, I explore findom in diverse and non-destructive ways. While some call this ‘ethical findom,’ each domme operates with their own ethical and moral code. For me, ethical findom includes safe words, clear negotiations, and hard budget limits. My goal is never to leave a submissive in a financially destructive position; only disposable income should be used for this kind of play. I encourage all my clients to prioritize their savings and financial stability before spending money on me. This principle applies not just to finsubs but to all my subs and clients: do not spend money you cannot afford to lose.
That being said, I do enjoy making certain submissives serve and suffer through their finances, but always in a controlled and calculated manner. For example, I have incorporated ‘prosecutorial’ clauses into findom contracts, where tributes are used to reconcile bad behavior or mistakes made by my slaves. In some dynamics, I meticulously control my subs’ budgets, guiding every penny they spend, often for their benefit as well as mine. More often than not, there isn’t an official “findom” agreement, but there is an unspoken rule: if you view me as your mistress and goddess, you are committed to easing my burdens, and money is the most impactful way to do that.
For a long time, I struggled with how to quantify what each individual should be willing and able to budget as a minimum towards serving me, whether through sessions, financial acts of service, gifts, or findom drains. I have finally found the answer in a concept that has existed for centuries: The Tithe.
The Historical Context of the Tithe
The concept of the tithe has a long and storied history, primarily rooted in religious traditions. Originating from the Old English word "teogotha," meaning "tenth," the tithe is a practice of contributing a tenth of one's earnings or produce. This concept is prevalent in many religious texts and traditions, including Judaism, Christianity, and Islam.
In the Old Testament, the tithe was a divine commandment given to the Israelites, instructing them to give 10% of their crops and livestock to support the Levites, priests, and the needy (Leviticus 27:30-32). This practice was not merely about religious obligation but also about communal support and social welfare. In medieval Europe, the tithe evolved into a mandatory tax, supporting both the church and the infrastructure of the community. Parishioners would contribute a portion of their income or agricultural produce, which was collected and used for the maintenance of churches, clergy, and charitable endeavors.
Financial Reasoning Behind the Tithe
The financial reasoning behind the tithe is multi-faceted. Primarily, it serves as a means of ensuring the sustainability and functioning of religious and communal institutions. By allocating a fixed percentage of income, individuals contribute to a collective pool that supports essential services and social welfare programs.
Additionally, tithing promotes a sense of discipline and financial planning. It encourages individuals to budget and manage their resources effectively, setting aside a portion of their income for a predetermined purpose. This practice can lead to more mindful spending and saving habits, fostering a culture of financial responsibility.
Moreover, the tithe embodies the principle of giving back to the community and supporting those in need. It reflects a commitment to the well-being of others, promoting a sense of unity and shared responsibility. In modern terms, this can be likened to charitable donations and community support systems that play a crucial role in societal development.
The Femdom Tithe: A Modern Adaptation
In contemporary times, the concept of the tithe can be reimagined within the context of personal relationships, particularly in the dynamic of female dominance, or femdom. The femdom tithe involves dedicating 10% of one's income to the woman in their life who holds a position of authority and control. This practice can be seen as a modern twist on the traditional tithe, adapted to suit the dynamics of a consensual power exchange relationship.
Why Every Submissive Can and Should Dedicate 10% of Their Income
1. Acknowledgement of Leadership and Authority: In a femdom relationship, the woman often assumes a leadership role, making decisions and guiding the relationship. The femdom tithe serves as a tangible acknowledgment of her authority and the respect for her role. It symbolizes a commitment to the power dynamic and reinforces the structure of the relationship.
2. Financial Stability and Responsibility: Just as the traditional tithe encourages financial discipline, the femdom tithe can promote responsible money management. By setting aside a portion of their income, submissives can learn to budget more effectively and prioritize their expenditures. This practice can lead to a healthier financial outlook and a more stable economic foundation.
3. Enhancement of the Relationship: The act of dedicating a portion of one's income to a partner can strengthen the bond and trust within the relationship. It demonstrates a willingness to invest in the partnership and support the woman's needs and desires. This mutual commitment can enhance the emotional and psychological connection between partners.
4. Support and Empowerment: The femdom tithe can serve as a means of empowering the woman, providing her with additional resources to pursue her interests, goals, and well-being. It reflects a supportive and nurturing approach to the relationship, fostering a sense of partnership and mutual growth.
5. Reinforcement of Consent and Communication: Engaging in the femdom tithe requires open communication and mutual consent. It encourages partners to discuss their financial arrangements, expectations, and boundaries. This dialogue can lead to a deeper understanding of each other's needs and desires, strengthening the overall dynamic of the relationship.
In conclusion, findom is a multifaceted and often misunderstood aspect of the kink community. While it can be controversial, it also offers a unique way to explore power dynamics through the lens of financial exchange. It’s essential to understand that findom, like any kink, should be approached with mutual consent, clear communication, and ethical considerations.
The introduction of the tithe concept provides a structured, historically rooted framework that can help navigate the financial aspects of these relationships. By dedicating a portion of their income, submissives can honor their domme, promote financial discipline, and strengthen the power dynamic. This practice, when done ethically, supports both partners' well-being and fosters a healthier, more sustainable relationship.